Posted by: Admin | September 13, 2016

Depression in Women

Depressive illnesses are serious medical illnesses that affect more than 19 million American adults age 18 and over each year.  Depression is a treatable medical illness that can occur in any woman, at any time, and for various reasons regardless of age, race, or income.

  • Approximately 12 million women in the United States experience clinical depression each year.
  • About one in every eight women can expect to develop clinical depression during their lifetime.
  • Depression occurs most frequently in women aged 25 to 44.

Many factors in women may contribute to depression, such as developmental, reproductive, hormonal, genetic and other biological differences.  Social factors may also lead to higher rates of clinical depression among women, including stress from work, family responsibilities, the roles and expectations women and increased rates of sexual abuse and poverty.  Women experience depression at roughly twice the rate of men.  Girls 14-18 years of age have consistently higher rates of depression than boys in this age group.

Depression in women is misdiagnosed approximately 30 to 50 percent of the time.  Fewer than half of the women who experience clinical depression will ever seek care. Depression is a very treatable illness.

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Posted by: Admin | September 8, 2016

Meaningful Work and Recovery

Meaningful Work and Recovery

Although you will encounter roadblocks and setbacks on the road to recovery, working at something that is meaningful to you can bring you a sense of purpose that will anchor you. Meaningful activity expands your sense of self-worth by adding to your skills and helping you accomplish your personal goals and feel good about yourself. Meaningful activity, which includes school, volunteer work, part-time work and full-time employment, also enables you to meet new people and make friends.

We all need some form of meaningful activity in our lives and a means of supporting ourselves, but having a mental health condition can be an obstacle. Mental health conditions impact different people in various ways. Some people with mental health conditions may never stop working; others find that their condition interrupts their career, and still others may be able to do only limited work.  As people recover from a mental health condition, they also face varied challenges in relation to work. Some people with mental health conditions find that they are able, with minor accommodations, to work in the same way they did before. Others may have to re-enter work gradually. And people on disability benefits will need to observe back-to-work rules when employed.

No matter your situation and no matter the hurdles you face, hold on to your goals for yourself and keep striving to incorporate meaningful activity into your life. In the past, people with mental illness were often discouraged from working, but today we understand that work is not only a possibility, but it can also play a vital role in recovery.

It’s true, however, that having a mental health condition can pose some practical barriers to working, such as having breaks in your career, feeling unsure of yourself, or needing to ask for an accommodation such as time for doctors’ appointments. You can figure out strategies to work around these barriers, often with the help of friends, mentors or an employment specialist.  More information on this topic and others at Mental Health of America website.

Posted by: Admin | September 1, 2016

What Happens to Your Brain When You Take Drugs?

Drugs are chemicals that tap into the brain’s communication system and disrupt the way nerve cells normally send, receive, and process information. There are at least two ways that drugs cause this disruption: by imitating the brain’s natural chemical messengers and/or by overstimulating the “reward circuit” of the brain.

Some drugs, such as marijuana and heroin, have a similar structure to chemical messengers called neurotransmitters, which are naturally produced by the brain. This similarity allows the drugs to “fool” the brain’s receptors and activate nerve cells to send abnormal messages. Other drugs, such as cocaine or methamphetamine, can cause the nerve cells to release abnormally large amounts of natural neurotransmitters or to prevent the normal recycling of these brain chemicals, which is needed to shut off the signal between neurons. This disruption produces a greatly amplified message that ultimately disrupts normal communication patterns.

Nearly all drugs, directly or indirectly, target the brain’s reward system by flooding the circuit with dopamine. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter present in regions of the brain that control movement, emotion, motivation, and feelings of pleasure. The overstimulation of this system, which normally responds to natural behaviors that are linked to survival (eating, spending time with loved ones, etc), produces euphoric effects in response to the drugs. This reaction sets in motion a pattern that “teaches” people to repeat the behavior of abusing drugs.

As a person continues to abuse drugs, the brain adapts to the dopamine surges by producing less dopamine or reducing the number of dopamine receptors. The user must therefore keep abusing drugs to bring his or her dopamine function back to ”normal” or use more drugs to achieve a dopamine high.

Long-term drug abuse causes changes in other brain chemical systems and circuits, as well. Brain imaging studies of drug-addicted individuals show changes in areas of the brain that are critical to judgment, decision-making, learning and memory, and behavior control. Together, these changes can drive an abuser to seek out and take drugs compulsively —  in other words, to become addicted to drugs. This information is reported by the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence.

Posted by: Admin | August 25, 2016

Top 5 Benefits of Blogging for your Small Business:

1.Helps establish credibility and you can show off your expertise and knowledge
2.Promote yourself or your business, product or service – build brand awareness
3.Build a platform & a following – sharing your blog posts on social media gives people a reason to follow you
4.Share opinions, how-to, reviews, advice – help solve peoples’ problems
5.Search Engine Optimization (SEO) – it’s the fresh content that Google is looking for
6.Drive traffic to your website which in turn helps build your email list and
generate qualified leads

Posted by: Admin | June 3, 2016

Bullying in Your Workplace?

Simply put BULLYING is a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort.  Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words or more subtle actions.

There are many places that bullying can take place.  Bullying can take place in schools, playgrounds, workplace, neighborhoods, gyms and on the internet (cyber).

All organizations should have some form of written policy of respect.  However, it is those that we entrust to teach, inform, and uphold those policies.  A lot of the time that is where the failure happens.

There are times when there are no policies, HR personnel or management to be the enforcer of those rules.  This is where we hope that common sense, integrity, and a level of maturity will support decisions made by those who are involved.  We now that this is not always the case.  We see too many violent results from those who bully to whom those actions are directed at.

Bullying in the workplace can have many negative results such as:  employee turnover, lawsuits, absenteeism and overall bad attitudes.

In the workplace you must rely on those who can find the underlying problems and address them as soon as possible.  It may be with a group meeting, one-on-one meeting or simply separating those involved.  The problem must be confronted and dealt with as soon as possible for positive results.


Posted by: Admin | May 27, 2016

Memorial Day

Most people on this day spend time with traveling, parties, cooking out with friends and family.  It is a day to honor those who have served and sacrificed in protecting our great NATION now and in the past.

Back in 2000 a resolution was passed that asks Americans to “voluntarily and informally observe in their own way a Moment of Remembrance and respect, pausing from whatever they are doing for a moment of silence or by listening to taps.”

So many of our military have sacrificed their lives and their way of life in support of our freedom.  Our FREEDOM is something that is challenged every day.  Let’s give thanks to the families of those who are picking up the every day duties of life while they are serving.  Let’s all be the best support system we can be to our military partners.



Donald Trump has grown an empire of wealth and power, but is it enough? He admits that it isn’t the money that motivates him. (The Art of the Deal, 1987) What drives narcissists are their fears of feeling weak, vulnerable, or inferior. Consequently, for male narcissists in particular, achieving  power is their highest value – at any cost. Trump is “certain about what he wants and sets out to get it, no holds barred.” (Trump on Trump)

There is great disparity between what narcissists show the world and what goes on inside. Despite their big egos, they’re frightened and fragile – just the opposite of their grandiose, powerful façade. They must work hard to keep up their image, not only for others, but for themselves. In fact, their immodesty and exaggerated self-importance are commensurate with their hidden shame. “Me thinks you protest too much,” defines them. Shame is paradoxical in that it hides behind false pride. Its defenses of arrogance and contempt, envy and aggression, and denial and projection all serve to inflate and compensate for a weak, immature self. Like all bullies, the greater their defensive aggression, the greater is their insecurity.

Shame fuels their needs for admiration, attention, and respect. “If I get my name in the paper, if people pay attention, that’s what matters.” (Donald Trump: Master Apprentice, 2005) Trump wants “total recognition” as when “Nigerians on the street corners who don’t speak a word of English, say, ‘Trump! Trump!’” (New Yorker, May 19, 1997) Praise and success never fill a narcissist’s inner emptiness, nor compensate for deep-seated feelings of inadequacy. Despite being the topic of countless headlines and magazine covers, he complained to Scott Pelly in his 60-minute interview that his business doesn’t get enough respect.

To gain recognition and validation of their worth, narcissists brag and exaggerate the truth. They imagine themselves to be more special – more desirable, more intelligent, more powerful, more invincible – than others. “Some people would say I’m very, very, very intelligent.” (Fortune, April 3, 2000) “My I.Q. is one of the highest!” (Twitter, May 8, 2013) “All the women on The Apprentice flirted with me — consciously or unconsciously.” (How to Get Rich, 2004) “It’s very hard for them to attack me on looks, because I’m so good looking.” (NBC’s “Meet the Press,” Aug. 9, 2015) Trump announced his grandiose, unrealistic ambitions to Scott Pelly to force businesses to close foreign plants, to compel the Chinese to devalue their currency, and to build a cheap, impenetrable wall paid for by Mexico. (Estimates are $28 billion a year.)

It’s all or nothing with narcissists. For Donald Trump, there are winners, like himself (TrumpNation: The Art of Being The Donald, 2005), and losers, and he “doesn’t like to lose.” (New York Times, Aug. 7, 1983) “Show me someone without an ego, and I’ll show you a loser.” (Facebook, Dec. 9, 2013) Trump must stay on top and thrives on the challenge. “You learn that you’re either the toughest, meanest piece of shit in the world or you just crawl into a corner . . . Guys that I thought were tough were nothin’.” (New York magazine, Aug. 15, 1994) Losing, failing, being second aren’t options. “Life to me is a psychological game, a series of challenges you either meet or don’t (Playboy, March 1990). He “lies awake at night and thinks and plots.” (New York magazine, Nov. 9, 1992) These high stakes make for vicious competitiveness, where offense is the best defense. “Sometimes, part of making a deal is denigrating your competition.” (The Art of the Deal, 1987)

Narcissists have a “my way or the highway” attitude” and don’t like to hear “No.” Others’ limits make them feel powerless as they did as a child, which is very frightening. They can throw a childlike tantrum when others don’t comply. When their imagined omnipotence and control is challenged, they manipulate to get what they want and may punish you or make you feel guilty for turning them down. (Lancer, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People)


By projecting their aggression outward, the world appears hostile and dangerous. “The world is a pretty vicious place.” (Esquire, January 2004) People who are seen “as out for themselves,” (Playboy, March 1990), become adversaries to defeat or control. To keep safe, they push others away, fending off threats and humiliation, and they do so aggressively. Women “are far worse than men, far more aggressive … ” (The Art of the Comeback, 1997) “You have to treat ’em like shit.” (New York magazine, Nov. 9, 1992)  Nevertheless, narcissists are exquisitely sensitive to any sign of disrespect or imagined slight that threatens their self-concept. When Trump says, “The rich have a very low threshold for pain.” (New York magazine, Feb. 11, 1985), he includes himself.

Trump learned to attack from his father, who “taught me to keep my guard up.” (Esquire, January 2004) When attacked, narcissists retaliate to reverse feelings of humiliation and restores their pride. “If someone screws you, screw them back. When somebody hurts you, just go after them as viciously and as violently as you can.” (How to Get Rich, 2004) “If somebody tries to push me around, he’s going to pay a price. Those people don’t come back for seconds. I don’t like being pushed around or taken advantage of.” (Playboy, March 1990)

He told Scott Pelly that his father was “a tough cookie” – a strict, “no-nonsense kind of guy.” (Playboy, March 1990) There are many ways parents can shame their children and instill the belief that they’re not worthy of love. Scolding feelings and needs or emphasizing high expectations convey conditional, tough love, which makes a child feel unaccepted for who they are. Sadly, the implication is that without success (or for a female narcissist, often beauty), no one would care about me. “Let’s say I was worth $10. People would say, ‘Who the [expletive] are you?’” (Washington Post, July 12, 2015) Instead, they must earn their parents’ acceptance. Ted Levine, Trump’s high school roommate, described the kind of pressure to excel that the boys were under. “He had to be better than his father. We were sent here to be the best of the best, and we knew what our job was.”

To compensate for insecurity and shame, narcissists feel superior, often expressed with disdain or contempt, captured in the scornful, smirk and curled lip shown in the photo. Arrogance and putdowns bolster their egos by projecting the devalued parts of themselves onto others. Trump has disparagingly and publicly labeled various people a “dog,” “bimbo,” “dummy,”  “grotesque,” “losers,” or “morons.” Narcissists’ invectives are made worse by their lack of empathy, which enables them to see people as two-dimensional objects to meet their needs. “It really doesn’t matter what they write as long as you’ve got a young and beautiful piece of ass.” (Esquire, 1991) Objectifying others demonstrates how insensitively they were treated growing up.

Not the quarry, but the chase; not the trophy, but the race” inspires Trump. “The same assets that excite me in the chase, often, once they are acquired, leave me bored. For me . . . the important thing is the getting, not the having.” (Surviving at the Top, 1990) Conquest and winning reaffirm a narcissist’s power. “It’s all in the hunt and once you get it, it loses some of its energy. I think competitive, successful men feel that way about women.” (TrumpNation: The Art of Being The Donald, 2005) Victory also bolsters unexpressed feelings of insufficiency. Trump so hinted, saying, “Oftentimes when I was sleeping with one of the top women in the world I would say to myself, thinking about me as a boy from Queens, ‘Can you believe what I am getting?’” (Think Big: Make it Happen in Business and Life, 2008)

However, power and love don’t easily coexist. “Intimacy requires vulnerability, letting down one’s guard and being authentic to get close emotionally – all signs of weakness that are frightening and abhorrent to a narcissist. Rather than give up power and control, which risk exposure of their false persona, many narcissists have short relationships or are distancers when more than sex is anticipated.” (Lancer, Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People.)

Love relationships are about connecting – something herculean for a narcissist. “For me, business comes easier than relationships.” (Esquire, January 2004) “I’m married to my business. It’s been a marriage of love. So, for a woman, frankly, it’s not easy in terms of relationships.” (New York magazine, Dec. 13, 2004) “I was bored when she (Marla) was walking down the aisle. I kept thinking: What the hell am I doing here? I was so deep into my business stuff. I couldn’t think of anything else.” (TrumpNation: The Art of Being The Donald, 2005)

Posted on Find-a-Therapist by Darlene Lancer in 2015

Posted by: Admin | May 19, 2016

Depression Can Run In The Family

Studies show that 25% of the kids who have a parent who has suffered from clinical depression will experience their own episode, says Dr. Frassler a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Vermont.  If both Mom and Dad are depressed, the risk increases to around 75%.  Scientists aren’t exactly sure of the reason for this, but one theory posits that these kids have a genetic vulnerability, which is the exacerbated by a stressful environment.  That said, keep in mind that genes aren’t destiny, even when there’s depression in the family.

Posted by: Admin | May 6, 2016

What is Percocet?

Percocet is the brand name of a prescription medication that contains oxycodone and acetaminophen.  Oxycodone is a semisynthetic opioid that is also marketed as the prescription painkiller OxyContin.  Acetaminophen is an analgesic that reduces fever and is present in many over-the counter medications.  The combination of oxycodone and acetaminophen allows Percocet to treat moderate to severe pain.  When a person takes Percocet, the oxycodone interacts with receptors in the central nervous system to alleviate pain and elicits a sense of relaxed euphoria.  Oxycodone can suppress the heart rate and respiration, and is also highly addictive, while the misuse or abuse of acetaminophen can lead to liver failure.However, with effective comprehensive care, individuals can overcome their compulsion to abuse and can live healthier drug-free lives.

Posted by: Admin | May 3, 2016


Bullying is the assertion of power through aggression.  The forms change with age: school playground bullying, verbal taunts, put-downs, exclusion from the peer group, sexual harassment, gang attacks, date violence, assault, marital violence.  Bullying is a conscious, willful, deliberate, hostile and repeated behavior by one or more people, which is intended to harm others.

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